Monday, April 30, 2018

Officially a Full-time Housewife

- @achievetheimpossible on Instagram


I had a job.

& now I have a new one, a housewife.

And one of million things I did first when I woke up last Friday morning was, I was wide awake at 6am. I was feeling pumped and so excited to spend the day as a housewife and my ambition was to be a housewife my whole life. BUT, that doesn't happen until last week.

I am blessed. 

Some of you might think that, "Girllll, everyone desperately wants a job but you just want to stay at home and do nothing? Nuh-uh. That ain't badass. Get your poop together and work your butt out, girllll."

Umm, first of all. This is my life, so it is entirely up to me what to do and what not to do. I am not living yours, so yeah. Second of all, doesn't mean I am quitting, I am not a badass woman. Doesn't mean I am resigning, I don't have money. Doesn't mean I do not have a job, I am a loser. Doesn't mean I am not working in an office, I do not have a productive life. I could have way more productive things to do than sitting in an air-conditioned room with the sound of people speaking (indistinctly) or phone vibrating against the cubicle tables or keyboard clicking, mouse scrolling through unfitted page in a browser or the sound of someone's flushing down the toilet in the washroom.

All that, I have been there and I was there, experiencing it each and every day and I could say that it gets pretty exhausting. I was a busy idiot rather than a productive human being. Maybe I do not belong in an office or maybe it is just my brain tells me to stop. "This is not you, Malina.". I need more than just that. Life is more meaningful than just this. I need to grow and where I came from, it has entirely outgrown me. I just want something more.

So, I took that big step of resigning and I just need to "defrag" my brain and treat it like how it is supposed to. My brain gets too tired and chillin' at home is just what I need.

I just got married (well, almost 6 months now, but yeah...), so I feel like the need to brush up my "wife" skills. Cleaning, cooking, trying out new recipes, baking, taking care of pets and plants, arranging furnitures, selecting the perfect furnitures for every nook and cranny of the house now that we own our own place and especially to spend sweet time with my husband, also my own time to workout, read, writing, learn new things, etc.

The fact that I really love being productive but in a more relaxing kind of way, housewife would be a perfect job for me (for now). I am not planning to be a housewife forever, but, just enough time for me to defrag before taking my next step.

The idea of having more time with writing and reading, that's what excite me the most. Away from people, just me spending time at home while my husband is out working his heart out for his little family, cooking when he gets back from work are just what I want. My husband and I are learning/focusing on being a better partner (of course, a better human being too, at the same time) before we proceed to be parents.

Different people craves different things. Different people have different kind of rezeki. You have your own, we have ours and we believe our plans at the moment really works out for us and Alhamdulillah, God eases it all. 

Being a full time housewife is what I always wanted to be and needed to be. I really enjoy cleaning the house and cooking, well you know, just be a housewife. Not for long, inshaAllah, Allah has the best plan for me and I know what I have now is the best. Alhamdulillah.

Let's see what awaits tomorrow x


Love,
Malina A.

Saturday, April 28, 2018

April showers, no rain no flowers.


"Greetings. I shake you warmly by the hand." - Willy Wonka


Warm green tea, cute lil succulents, April calendar, smartphone, MacBook Air & some thoughts in my brain. 

Oh boy, it has been ages, ain't it? Not apologizing for being busy and productive in life, but I do apologize for not having much time to write a post on this blog. The last post was my wedding updates, which was happening almost 6 months ago.

Oh wow I have been married for 6 months now? How time flies!

Alhamdulillah, life has been good, been treating me and my husband well. More updates! Since the last posts, many things have been going on. Honeymoons, trips with husband and family, events, big events and also some small incidents and good times and more great times. So far, alhamdulillah, living life with no regrets.

A week (or two) after the wedding, we went on our honeymoon, just in the city area. We wanted to go celebrating our "penat lelah" with the wedding and what not. It was very hectic with the preparations months and months before the November 11th, so we decided to just go chilling and relax at the hotel for two nights. Went touristing with my lawful wedded husband in our very own Kuala Lumpur city.

A few weeks after that, we went to London & Paris for the real honeymoon-ing. LOL. We were there along with my family. The five of us were exploring entire London (& Paris) for approximately around 17 days(?), if I'm not wrong. Didn't get the chance to explore other European countries because we just loved London so much that we couldn't get enough just being there. (No, for real). 

Fast forward to January. Well we got back from London on January 7th and then whole entire month feels like whole entire year. Is it just me or last January really felt like forever? Oh well, survived January like a shero and continue with more city trips with my husband. We had this crazy (but fun) idea of swimming in at any rooftop/infinity pool, every weekend. We both really enjoy swimming (like so much) and it is one our favourite past time and ways to spend a quality time together. So we both agreed and we checked in to different hotels every weekend for their amazing pools.

Then February 27th came. Celebrated Mommy's birthday and we spent two nights in a 3-bedroom water chalet. It was nice, spending the time with family, playing cards and asking general knowledge questions, lie down on an open-sky balcony with the lights off, talked about stars and universe and how Earth exists, discussed of current issues, what's happening to the world, to our nations and what not. It was very calming yet interesting and beneficial things to talk about. I love how my father really explains and shares all information and knowledge that he knows to us kids. He is very wise and certainly a knowledgeable man.

And then March approached. Survived another month.

And we are here, in April. Like the Zoella lifestyle's calendar's saying "April showers, no rain no flowers." Now I know what it meant when I entered this month. It was horrible and exhausting at the beginning and I took a leap of faith that I know if I already decided I want to go through it, might as well just get through with it as soon as I can (in a fabulous way). I decided to quit my job and be a fulltime housewife. It was raining at first, now that I stayed at home, yes, it is full with flowers now. I live my life and I love it.

Do not worry, I am not jobless, I am just taking my time off and get ready for something bigger & sweeter :)


P/s: More blog posts coming up! 



Love,
Malina A.

Saturday, November 25, 2017

♥ 18:11 : Reception Day (Two)

18 November 2017
Saturday
11am - 4pm
Family, relatives, friends, neighbours, colleagues, schoolmates etc.
My husband's place

























♥ 12:11 : Reception Day (One)

12 November 2017
Sunday
12.30 noon - 3.30pm
Family, relatives, friends, neighbours, colleagues, schoolmates, etc.
Grand Hall, D'Tempat Country Club






  






We hired a photographer and couple of videographers for this reception ceremony, so we are still waiting for the end result in a few weeks time. Hopefully it will turn out good and I can share with you here once I got them. These were all photos captured by personal phones and cameras, so let's be patient and keep spreading the good vibes! ♥

♥ 11:11 : Solemnization Day


11 November 2017
Saturday
10am - 3pm
Family, relatives & closest friends
My parents' place

















  • L’amour de ma vie, je veux Γͺtre avec toi pour toujours.


♥ 11:11, 11 November 2017



Je vous dΓ©clare mari et femme.


Alhamdulillah.


We are officially married on November 11th, 2017 at my parents' home in the morning. Alhamdulillah, Allah has the best plan for all of us and He brought Syazwan and I, here to this whole new level that we have been impatiently waiting for. Three years of knowing this man, I know he is the Wan for me. Couldn’t ask for more, Allah has bless us with this marriage and hopefully until His Firdaus. Massive thank you to family, relatives and friends, not to mention, my in-laws for your endless prayers and kind wishes. May Allah bless you all for being so supportive and helpful. I pray nothing but the best for all of you who were attending the solemnization ceremony. It’s a beautiful moment for Syazwan and I and we are grateful to share and celebrate this union with you. Thank you for coming all the way and thank you for your amazing effort in making sure that the ceremony went smoothly. Alhamdulillah. 


I am a wife now!

Wednesday, October 18, 2017

MxS Engagement Ceremony

Event: Malina & Syazwan's Engagement Day
Date: 18th February 2017
Day: Saturday
Time: 8pm - 11pm
Venue: My home
Who was there: Family, relatives & closest friends



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Countless thanks to my family members, relatives, friends, neighbours, and last by no means least, massive thank you to my partner and my future in-laws, family, relatives and also friends, for all your love, pray and amazing help and support to make the engagement ceremony goes beautifully and smoothly without a hitch. Thank you for coming all the way to memeriahkan lagi majlis. Alhamdulillah. Thank you for helping to make our February 18 come true. Apologize for any uneasiness or perturbed that may/may not caused. Once again, thank you for joining us for the engagement ceremony, may Allah ease everything and we shall see each other again very very soon for the next event, InshaAllah. I am forever grateful. Alhamdulillah ❤️πŸ’•

It was a very short period between the time MSA proposed to me (I think it was on November 2016), and the merisik (on January 7th 2017) and the engagement day which was a month after the merisik. The preparation was made in a very short time, approximately a month, just right after the merisik. 

Alhamdulillah, everything was easy. The bookings were easy, the vendors and everything are available though it was only a month away for the event. I made a very last minute appointments with the spa for facial and body scrub, mani/pedi, dulang hantaran and those fresh flowers my mom and I picked out ourselves from the market. MSA and I went to most of all jewelry shops in KL to find the perfect engagement ring.

Speaking of engagement ring, did you know that MSA actually surprised me and I wasn't even there when he bought it? He has been observing me and my taste in rings so he knew all along which particular type or design of ring I love. So he did manage to find the perfect one and he knows that I will love it.

And also the clear tent and caterer. And the dress. Fun fact about the dress: I actually bought the dress from Variante like a few years ago for Eid (Hari Raya) but I never got the chance to wear it because it has to alter a bit since I bought one size bigger. I did not have the time to send it to tailor and that is the reason why I never wore it for that year's Eid. Managed to alter it as my engagement dress few years after and it looked perfectly beautiful. My tailor, Kak Intan has done it nicely. Added a few touch of hers with some sequins and beads and make it to look a little less-jubah and more-to-dress and voila!

For the headscarf and the most gorgeous veil, believe it or not, I managed to find it exactly 24 hours before the engagement day. Ariani offers a lot of different colours and designs for the scarfs and also the veil and the staff were very attentive and I tried quite a few in the fitting room but none of it suits the dress. My mom and I were about to give up and one of the staffs told us, "Wait, I think I have exactly what you meant and what you need. Give me 10 minutes.". We waited while still trying on few other options and then a few minutes later, this person handed me the perfect veil, the design, the colour, the material, you name it. Everything is perfect for the dress and I am absolutely obsessed with it!

When my mom and I were back home from Ariani, everything at home was sorted out. Two tents are up, whole entire home are cleaned and furnitures were outside in the car porch. Dulang hantaran deco and the pelamin were arranged the next day in the morning. Caterer is ready with the food, everything is set and I got my makeup done at 5pm. Got dressed and I was pretty nervous. My girlfriends were with me the entire time and they helped me got through the pre-engagement jitters very well.

Then one of my aunts held my hand and escorted me to the simple yet beautiful pelamin. The scent of the daisies, roses and calla lilies mixed together were all filled in the living hall. I was nervous, my palms were sweaty and MSA's mom came to sit beside me on the bench at the pelamin. She was holding the ring box, opened the box and took the ring out and my heart beats fast. My upper lip was wet. I do not know why I was nervous but I was. MSA's mom held my right hand and put the ring on my finger. I said, "Alhamdulillah, aunty. Thank you." and she replied with, "Alhamdulillah, I was nervous. This is my first time." and I laughed and said, "Its okay, aunty. This is my first time too!" and we both laughed, hence, the photo we both laughing captured in one of these photos below. It was funny, we both were nervous but Alhamdulillah, it went very well.

Then, the photography session with almost everybody at the event. Then out for dinner and mingling around with relatives and friends. I was nervous to see MSA's face for the first time that night because in our Malay culture, the groom-to-be is not allowed to be in the house while the discussion and the ceremony was held. He is not even allowed to see the mother puts the ring on the bride-to-be's finger. So I did not see him the entire evening except for the photography session. I was scared, somehow, to talk to him or to meet him in the eye. Its kinda embarrassing and overwhelming at the same time, but we did it. The ceremony went smoothly and praise to Allah that we managed to finally stand at this stage in life. We are beyond thankful and grateful for the help of many in the journey of uniting us together in the future, inshaAllah. Thank you to all helps and prayers from our beloved ones and may Allah bless this journey and may Allah ease everything for us both.


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Dress by: Variante
Tailored by: Intan Tailor
Headscarf & veil by: Ariani
Makeup by: Ainaa Farhanah
Dulang hantaran deco by: Idieana Rozaidi
Welcome board hand calligraphy by: Letters by Juey
Calla Lily hand bouquet by: Mommy
Pelamin deco by: Mommy, aunties & cousins
Photographer & videographer by: Everybody. LOL!



x,
Malina Azman