Wednesday, September 18, 2013

"Why do you have to be so rude?"

Adj.1.rude - socially incorrect in behavior; "resentment flared at such an unmannered intrusion"
bad-mannered, ill-mannered, unmannered, unmannerly
impolite - not polite
2.rude - (of persons) lacking in refinement or grace
bounderish, ill-bred, lowbred, underbred, yokelish
unrefined - (used of person and their behavior) not refined; uncouth; "how can a refines girl be drawn to such an unrefined man?"
rude - lacking civility or good manners; "want nothing from you but to get away from your uncivil tongue"- Willa Cather

( : Rude)

And none of the above gives non-negative impressions/expressions. Like, zero. So it keeps me thinking, why on Earth they are just so many people that have this kind of attitude?

It is very fascinating on how often you encounter with rude people. Classic example, while you are driving, they are just too many rude and uncivilized people on the road. You are actually sharing the same road with those weird-minded people out there. I am not judging or blaming anyone. But I could not help it and ask myself, "Why are there so many rude people in here? Where are those manners and civilized-minded people?" or if bahasa kasar in Bahasa, we say, "Kurang ajar betul! Mak bapak kau tak ajar ke?!". Something like that. Hihi.

As usual, this curiosity and the eager to know why and how and what, this brain is forcing me to Google it up and do my research and read more about this "rude" issue. So I have read like 5 to 6 different articles and studies about rude people and such and I have found quite interesting points!

It is true (I know) that not everyone has the right state of mind like you do, and with different backgrounds, interests and views in life, it makes us all different from one another and encounter/ deal with weird attitude and people, it can be haywire sometimes. But why certain people cannot really differentiate between good and bad deeds. Some people might be too ignorant and choose not to say or act with what they should react!

Rude or being rude can be categorized in so many ways e.g. At the table (table manner), in language, on the street, how to sit, how to interact with people (conversing with people), etc. It can be so many types of rude which I don't really know why they can't just be normal and be happy and just to have that sense of respect towards others. Oh boy, I don't know why. Most of rude people can't even use their brain wisely and properly, so if you have ever encountered with rude people, these are the steps that you need to do...

We all have our moments of irrationality, it's a very human quality. This most commonly occurs with strangers, who don't expect to see you again and probably don't care about what you think of them. At time, you will get into situations in which people are persistently rude to you. They may have some prejudice of your gender, race, occupation and all that or may be judging you for something else that you've done.

I would normally just say, "I don't need that attitude from you right now. Thanks." LOL! Don't be aggressive or lose your temper, as that will only escalate the situation. Just recognize that they are crazy and all you are trying to do is to limit their annoying behaviour towards you. Remember that you do not have to prove anything to them.

If you think that the rudeness is based on a resolvable misunderstanding, you can extend the confrontation by asking them why they are behaving like that. If they give a rational response that you can address, go for it. If you can resolve the tension, that is the best possible scenario. Some people genuinely don't realize they are being rude. They may not have learned certain social skills.

But since this is my blog so I am just going to skip all the steps and tell you what I would usually do. Ask them why and what is wrong and why do you deserve to be treated like that even if it is not your fault. If they have certain points where you think that are acceptable by mankind, then you know what you should do next (I bet you know what to do!). Or if they are the one who being so melodramatic and weird, tell them nicely that you don't really have time to entertain such attitude. I know its kinda harsh, but just say this to them, "I am too positive for this kind of stuff" and just walk away. It may sounds rude to you, but rude people are just too negative! They can never receive good vibes into their brain and heart no matter how bad you really want them to change. Some people are just too... how to put this delicately? Hmm, they are just too, negative-minded and it is best for you to state your point that they bring no good cause into your life and I'm outta here, guuuurrrlllll! *zig zag snap*

How to 'UN-RUDE' them? You cannot be rude to them back because honey, they always going to have rude-r statements to say to you back. They cannot be un-rude. You just walk away, you don't need rude, negative, weird-brain people in your life. They are not worth enough to stay in your brain, your heart and in your life. Okay honeybuns? I really hope you can get through this because it is hard for me too! I have to face with so many rude people out there since I spend most of time, outside, dealing with new people or strangers, every single day.

May Allah bless us all with lots of positive mind and good attitude.

Like my friend said, "Biar buruk rupa, jangan buruk perangai. Biar muka hodoh, jangan perangai bodoh." Renung-renungkan...

Malina Azman

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